Dating app writes open letter to upset male user

Posted at 10:03 AM, Jun 08, 2016
and last updated 2016-06-08 12:58:58-04

One dating app company wrote an open letter to a male customer who became upset when a female “match” asked a question about his career.

The situation started with a match and a conversation, then it quickly escalated. A woman named Ashley “matched” with a man named Connor. Because Bumble is an app designed to have women start the conversation, Ashley simply asked, “How’s it going?”

Connor answered and followed it up with a question asking how Ashley was doing. She replied saying that work was slow and then followed up by asking Connor what he does for a living. That’s where it became a little awkward.

Connor’s reply included “I don’t see anything nice about you prying into my career without even getting to know me as a person first.” Read the entire exchange below

To which Ashley responded “… tantrum you just threw is no way to find out more about me.”.

All of the screenshots of the alleged conversation are included below, as per the Bumble blog.



Connor’s last quote in the conversation was “Go take your $40,000/account manager job & asu degree elsewhere. My $300,000 job and Notre Dame finance degree has no use for you.”

After this conversation was shared enough times for the Bumble co-founder, Whitney Wolfe, to see, a special message was made public by the company to Connor.

Keep in mind that Bumble was created by the woman who sued Tinder, another popular dating app, for sexual harassment.

The open letter to Connor starts with “It has been brought to our attention that you lost your cool on one of our female users named Ashley. She made small talk, you felt personally attacked.”

The lengthy letter goes on to specifically quote Connor who accused Ashley of being a part of a “neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer.” the letter also also points out that Ashley mentioned work not to pry but because, as the Bumble crew says, “Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal.”


The letter wraps up by informing Connor that he is now blocked by Bumble.