Tulsa-area couple calls SCOTUS decision on DOMA bittersweet victory for gay Oklahomans

TULSA - Reactions by gay and lesbian Oklahomans were bittersweet at Oklahomans for Equality as the Supreme Court threw out California measure Prop 8 and struck down a key piece of the Defense of Marriage Act.

Among the couples trying to determine how the rulings would impact them was Rebeka Radcliff and Kim McDonald.

Kim and Rebeka have been married for nearly three years and are the parents to their son, Jordan Everett, who Rebeka gave birth to February 20.

The couple, because they could not be married in Oklahoma, was married in Montreal, Canada.

According to attorney Mike Redman, who is on the board of directors for Oklahomans for Equality, couples like Rebeka and Kim won't see much benefit from SCOTUS' ruling because Oklahoma has outlawed same-sex marriage and does not recognize them.

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It is because of that stance that Kim and Rebeka still have worries. Rebeka, as Jordan's biological mother, is recognized by the state. She fears that if she were to lose her life, the State of Oklahoma would take Jordan from his other mother, Kim.

"My worst fear is, you know, that Jordan would be placed with someone else if something happened to me. So yeah, I just feel like if our marriage was recognized, then I believe that would give us more protection," Rebeka said.

Fighting for that protection is the next step in their fight for equality. They say it's ironic that the state won't recognize their marriage given what they do for the Tulsa community.

"Kim works on reducing the rates of HIV infections. I do family counseling. I help save a lot of marriages that would otherwise end if it wasn't for marital counseling that I provide," Rebeka said.

"Federally, we'll be recog-- our marriage will be recognized, but as far as the state goes, we'll still, still be roommates," says Kim.

Kim and Rebeka could go to a state where same sex marriage is legal, where they wouldn't have to grapple with the hypothetical, but this is where their families are.

"We think about it and talk about it a lot, but this state is where our families are. I mean my family's been here at least five generations and Kim's family has been here for quite some time as well," Rebeka said.

For now, Kim and Rebeka say they plan to stay and hope their son won't have to live in a state where their parents' union isn't recognized.

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