TULSA - Experts are sending out a strong message after major cases of domestic violence this week.
On Tuesday, police say a man killed his wife and then committed suicide at their home in west Tulsa.
A few hours later, Bixby police say a woman called them after her boyfriend threatened to kill her.
While the crimes are disturbing, experts say they happen all too often.
They say Oklahoma ranks 17th in the nation for the number of women killed by men.
"You may not see any violence until the marriage, for example, or you may not see any violence until the pregnancy or you may not see any violence until the child is born," said Donna Matthews with Domestic Violence Intervention Services (DVIS).
According to the Oklahoma Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board, 114 people died in Oklahoma as a result of domestic violence. Thirteen of those deaths occurred in Tulsa County.
Matthews advises anyone suffering from domestic violence to make a plan and get help.
Matthews says there are a number of resources available to help.
To contact DVIS 24-hour crisis line, call 918-7HELPME (918-743-5763).
Another option is to call the state's Safeline at 1-800-522-SAFE. For more information, visit DVIS online.
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